For all she has gone through, the woman exemplifies the ability to overcome unfavorable odds by staying positive and focused on health despite. all
physical evidence to the contrary. Regardless of extreme discomfort and pain, compounded by the agony of waiting for treatments and test results,
Beatrice made the choice to not "accept anything less than it (the cancer) being gone."
I asked her why she thought she survived. Her response was that along with a positive attitude, she was armed with four things: faith in God, faith in her
doctors, faith in the drug she helped choose, and faith in herself and her ability to beat the cancer.
Beatrice made a point of going out every day even though, in her opinion, it is one of the hardest things for cancer patients to do. Walks at 5 a.m. to
regain her strength and dignity were part of her regular routine. A kerchief could cover the lack of hair on her head, but she had no eyelashes or
eyebrows. People would stare. Some previously close friends withdrew from her. While out walking one day, her best friend crossed the street to avoid
her. Beatrice commented, "With all there is to contend with, others' fears are something we don't need."
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A large majority of cancer patients lose their spouses during the treatment process. Beatrice and her husband, however, became closer. He said she was his
hero. He said he looked at her and saw her, not at her worst, but at her very best. He saw her fighting to live.
When she felt overwhelmed and wanted to give up, she would go into her bedroom, post a sign saying "My Rejuvenating Room" and close the door. No one was to
disturb her. She would cry, write and talk to herself, lifting her spirits and doing the inner work required to keep going.
While not a person who thrives on support groups, Beatrice feels the nurses at the Cross Cancer Institute were incredibly supportive, often going beyond
the call of duty. She says, "Others see the Institute as a depressing place. To me, it's a place of healing and compassion."
After her initial diagnosis Beatrice went through many emotions. At one point she asked, "Why me? Why would such a terrible thing happen to me?" Later she
thought, "Why not me?"
Although she had always been strong, she admitted "Even the strong are brought down. I cried for three days then realized I needed to put the thing in
front of me, look at it and solve it."
Was it the chemotherapy that healed her? Was it her faith and determination? Was it the unconditional love and support she received? She says, "Who knows,
it's gone."
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What she does know is that cancer was part of her journey. She recognizes the nurses and doctors, family and friends who encouraged and supported her
as angels. In her words, "they lifted me up when my own wings couldn't fly."
She's flying now.
"Yes, I suffered a lot. Yes it was horrible," she admits. "But cancer taught me to throw out so much junk in my life. You sure know where your values lie
after it all. I feel I am a much more compassionate and kind person. Cancer has changed my whole view of life. Material things are nothing. Life is
very precious."
One of the precious things she spoke about reflects her wonderful sense of humor. She said that when her hair grew back, one of her greatest joys came when
she needed to shave her legs. She happily spent an hour in the bathroom, shaving and shaving.
One of Beatrice's philosophies is that everything in life happens for a reason. Her experience with cancer has created within her a "duty and an
obligation to lighten the load of others." With a true understanding of what they are going through, she wants to help as many cancer patients as
possible in whatever way she can.
Beatrice now lives by the words of one of her doctors: "Live every day." Wise words for us all. |